Catching up with my Train of Thoughts



Are you an introvert/extrovert/ambivert? Do you know the difference? Does your personality follow the description to the letter? 

Recently, I found a video posted by a friend that described 10 traits among Ambiverts in terms of friendships. Knowing that a website classified me as an ambivert, it got me thinking – does the world have an obsession with organizing everything? 

Everyone’s different, we all know that, even twins (and controversial clones). And yet, science has found many ways to classify each individual – hair colour, interests, frequency of socializing (or lack of), ethnic background, etc. While it does provide a feeling of belonging in a group of people with similar traits, I find it creates a pressure to either follow the description, fit into the template closel or risk the possibility of being alienated from the rest. 

In the video that I mentioned before, it said that Ambiverts can change according to the environment and who they’re with (ie. they go with the flow). It made me think of an old friend who I had just met after not seeing him for a month. I was busy talking with another friend (Tyla) and I briefly introduced the two of them. My guy friend (who I don’t want to mention for the offchanve that he reads this) talked with me and joked about some old times before leaving for the day. 

Tyla, after having spoken to my guy friend for two minutes, told me that she obviously saw that he has a crush on me. What?!

(Excuse me while I freak out for a second). Both Tyla and I are ambiverts, so we’re used to by contacting each other for a long time, but what would that kind of trait mean for a couple? 

That’s where I want to trail off to in this post – how do you think the traits of introvert/extrovert/ambivert affect relationships? Depending on what sites you look at, introverts are usually described as a quiet listener while an extrovert is described as a doer more than a thinking. An Ambivert is someone who shifts from one to the other. 

While thinking about how these descriptions can affect your outlook (or inlook), remember this – science facts like these are based on controlled environment with willing individuals – what might have been accurate 10 years ago might not be valid today. 

Some sites say that everyone fits on the scale, somewhere between completely introverted or completely extroverted. As The Doctor, I would say it’s more like a wibbly-wobbly timely wimey … thing (ie. it’s a lot more than that). 


Happy 2017 (+New Year Resolution)

Happy New Year, Happy Valentines & Chinese New Year.

For 2017, I want to love myself more. I won’t promise to keep it up for the whole year, but I want to challenge myself to be more self-supportive as long as I can. I started with surpassing a week, then two and three weeks, which is my current record. I also want to be more patient with myself, to take a step back when I hit an obstacle instead of blaming myself.

One thing that I noticed was that I have a tendency a shifting the blame of the problem or to make it worse than is (The perks of having anxiety and being scattered-brain)

As I thought about how to write this, I scrapped 4 other versions before being satisfied with this.

I wish everyone good luck for 2017

A leader and follower

Ever been asked whether you’re a leader or follower? Ever wonder how people become leaders? Or how come some people stay as is?

Recently, I took part of a workshop that talked about “Collaborative Leadership.” We talked about people of whom we thought as good leaders (& those of whom we thought as bad) and what we could do to improve either for the better.

When I was looking around, I first felt out of place since most of the other participants were leaders of a student body. I felt like… like I was a leader-wannabe.

However, as I came to understand, I wasn’t the only one who had little to no confidence in their “Leadership” skill. As we brainstormed on the characteristics of the good and the bad, I found myself participating a lot, compared to hiding away in a little corner. I also found that some of my own characteristics proved to be helpful in the activities.

If I were to point out something I learned during the workshop it would be that being a leader is not something you’re born with that, but rather something that you pick up with experience. In order to gain the experience, it’s best to be prepared to ask questions and to listen attentively. As they say, “you never know until you try”.

Christmas 2015


To have a post on Christmas, is it expected for it to talk about what happened on Christmas? Or to talk about the things that were bought in the process of preparation of today?

I could talk about what I did today or I could talk about the things that I may have thought to buy for those of whom I hold dear, but would that be too mainstream?

Somehow, I feel something changing – I’m more conscious of my actions and the consequences of them even without acting out in the real world. I’m more appreciative of the little things and I seem to have taken a widen perspective of the world and the people in it.

While a lot of people will probably find themselves doing the typical things on Christmas – Opening gifts, having big dinners, hanging out with dear ones – I know quite a few that find other things to do.

Being a university student, I met a lot of international students who travelled a long way to be a student of Concordia University here in Montreal. In the process, they’re a long way from their families and friends. Maybe it’s because they can’t afford a round trip back home and to arrive back in time for the next semester.

Many of my friends are simply staying at their place/apartments on Christmas, maybe celebrating today with their roommates. While their celebration might not be as big as many others, it means a lot for them to not spend Christmas alone.

As Madge Arwell said, “You shouldn’t spend Christmas alone, and your friends shouldn’t spend Christmas without you.”

Merry Christmas, everyone, and a happy new year. IMG_0256

A choice of living in the past or in the present

Ever hear of individuals who relive the past by going through their memories for the millionth time? Ever encounter individuals that seemed so carefree of what happened in the past? 

How do they do that?

I once heard that wishing to go back to the past can create a rather negative view on the present. I also once heard that it would be a good idea to acknowledge the past and to remember it only to learn from it. 

Some people live in the past because they remember all of the good times they had back then in comparison to today. Some people live in the present as if to forget everything else. 

To live in the present is a necessity, but to tune everything else out is not. The past is a story of which tells listeners and/or readers events that had already occurred.  We have the potential to learn from those stories, all it takes is an attentive ear. 

Is it time that’s flying, or me running?

Ever have a list of things to be done in a day? Ever find that there isn’t enough time in the day to actually clear that list? Ever think that time flies very fast?I try to post everyday during the week, save Saturday and Sunday. However, having nothing specific written down during the summer, I often find myself immersed in pointless activities for several hours without realizing how much time had passed. Next thing I know, it’s late at night and I’m too tired to write something. Time flew so far ahead that it left me staggering. So, what to do now?

“Change takes time.” 

That expression is weird. It implies that change and time are linked, like one comes with the other. It implies that, like time, change can be fast or it can slow, but it will never stop. Because, even if it did, we wouldn’t realize that it stopped in the first place. 

Knowing that, I looked back to “The Strangest Secret”, where Nightingale reminded to bring a reminder wherever I go. When I know I’m going to be immersed in an activity, I’m going to put a timer, as if to remind me that so much time has passed. 

Because, even with a time machine capable of travelling in all of time and space, we can’t be running forever; eventually time will catch up with us all, reminding us of the reality of the world.

Who Said, ‘Everyone has a book in them, but in most cases that’s where it should stay’?

Interesting Literature

Who first said this famous quip about everyone having a book or novel in them?

‘Everyone has a book in them, but in most cases that’s where it should stay.’ Or, as some sources have it, ‘Everyone has a novel in them.’ Still others: ‘Every journalist has a novel in him.’ Most of us have heard the line, or some variation on it, and understand what it’s saying: it’s challenging the age-old belief that everyone has a story to tell, by suggesting that a) not all stories are actually worth telling, and b) not everyone can tell their story very well. So much for the main thrust of the quotation; but its authorship is not such an easy thing to determine. Who actually came up with it?

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